Children And Stress

Parents' Guide To Help Child Cope With Stress Due To Peer Pressure


“Spare the rod and spoil the child,” this good old saying requires constant review in view of the changed ground realities in the world of children. Perhaps punishment schedules and pressure tactics on children to improve them are the things of past. Children are exposed to unprecedented secular knowledge and there is no control for their acquiring any type of knowledge. The vast internet is at their disposal. The concept of peer pressure to get the results from the children seems to be as dead as Dodo.

The perception of the children in relation to their parents has changed. Children expect their parents to be their friend, philosopher and guide. As it is, your child is under tremendous pressure in the school, due to the never-ending load of homework and the actual load of books that it is required to carry. The atmosphere in the class room will be tense, if the teachers are extra-strict. When children return home, they look forward to a friendly, reassuring and co-operative atmosphere. If they feel the same pressure at home, it would be too much of a tension for them and ultimately they begin to hate both- the school as well as the home. That is one of the reasons why some children drop out from the school and run away from the house.

If you think that you can get along with their peer pressure to reform the child, you are mistaken. Losing temper over the frivolous issues is common amongst the children. Somebody has to listen to their problems and grievances. They may have their own genuine demands. Some of their demands need to be met. Some may be kept pending. Some demands may be linked to their performance.

As the child grows, it may have several questions, many of them inconvenient to you. But remember, this is the most crucial part of your child's life. The child always looks forward to the parents as their role models. If you think that you can control the children with “shut-ups” and “get outs,” you are highly mistaken.

Another cause of pressure in children is their being kept in ambiguity. Do not keep them in confusion for any of their demands. If you don't wish to entertain any of their demands, counsel them properly about the reasons behind your refusal in a relaxed manner. Once the child realizes that you are firm, when it matters, in the long run it will continue to respect you more and more. In the end, the child must get a feeling that you are willing to help it grow.