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Helping Your Spouse Manage Stress |
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“A friend in need is a friend in deed.”
Similar is the case of spouses.
Your spouse is your friend also.
In this context of the modern world, the challenges faced by the spouses
are many. Problems crop up one after another. Unsolved problems give
rise to tension. When you are unable to bear the tension, you are under
stress. A stressed individual is the person carrying a heavy head load,
and is unable to find a place for its unloading.
Marriage is supposed to 'flow together harmoniously'. Two
distinct individuals, born and brought up under two different set of
circumstances, try to live together and find a common goal. If that
common goal is their common all, then there are no problems. Problems
start, stress begins, when they become the East and the West.
It
is the duty of each spouse to contribute to mitigate the stress. Hard
arguments, rigid stands will not take you anywhere. Remember, every
argument has a counter argument and you can not win your spouse by
winning an argument. But you can definitely win him/her by
understanding, and having sympathy and love for each other. The two can
not walk together unless they are agreed.
The causes of stress
between the spouses are many. An unrecognized, isolated, unsupported
opinion over an issue, and the feeling of let down by the spouse make
the couples tremendously stressed out. Any one of the spouse can commit
a mistake. In such circumstances, it is better to make a clean slate and
own up the mistakes.
The mutual
relations must always expand. They should not contract. Basic conditions
need to be created, for the spouses to remain basically sound and
industrious.
If both are working, it is better
to work with clear cut responsibilities. Take all the aspects of family
life and draw out a plan of “to be done” and “not to be done” things.
Work according to that plan. Both of you have the pressure of office
work. Both of you leave home early and return late at night, tired and
exhausted.
Howsoever busy you are, take out some time for
recreation and family outings. Family outings are great stress relievers.
Another
inexpensive plan to remove stress between the spouses is to surprise
each other with small gifts. Pleasant surprises play a significant role
in contributing to the happiness.
Sympathy, understanding and
mutual respect for the individual objectives in life- if you have these
attributes, where is the stress?
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